My bagger handles pretty good. The old girl has a little less rake than a Vrod though. I agree those are only good for making stright runs and slow turns. Went for a tour with my Dad riding his Tiger a few years back. He couldn't shake me in the twisties, but um, well straight aways were a whole different story. Coffee has an excellent point. Assuming you have your MC license already, have you taken a rider safety course? If not perhaps see if she wants to join you. These classes are fun, informative, and can lower your insurance. Then you can have a potentially whole different discussion with her.
Thanks everyone for all the great advice! Gives me a lot more to think about than I had anticipated. My wife in no way wants to ride alone she has made that clear, but for some reason loves being the passenger. I already have my cycle endorsement so, I guess to go any further I will just start test driving a few bikes. There will be pictures of what ever I end up with. Thanks again for all the responses, it is much appreciated!! Stay safe all.